I hope you've all had an amazing week.
I'm writing this from a truck stop… somewhere between where we started and where we're going. We kicked off tour last week, and right now we're on the bus heading back to California for our show in Anaheim on Sunday - which, for whatever reason, feels like where the tour really begins. And I've had a lot of time to think.
I had a bit of a meltdown yesterday. Not a full breakdown… but enough to catch my attention. I've always had a hard time compartmentalizing my life. There's the band. The writing. The coaching. The content. If I'm being truly honest, the “What should I be doing right now?” voice never seems to fully shut off.
And even though I know this season of my life is about being present with the band…I still catch myself feeling like I should be doing more. Which is kind of insane, especially considering I was sick for three days this week and am just now starting to feel like myself again.
The pressure we put on ourselves is wild. I talk about this a lot. Mostly because it's something I actively struggle with.
This year, I've really been working on breaking free from the hustle. The overworking. The overthinking. The constant need to be productive. It's a lot easier to talk about than it is to actually live.
When you're building a life with multiple passions, you don't just focus on one thing. You move between things. You shift. You expand. And sometimes that can feel like you're doing everything…and nothing…at the same time.
But maybe that's not a problem. Maybe that's the point.
Maybe this season isn't about doing more.
Maybe it's about doing what's in front of you… fully.
For me, right now? That's the band. That's the bus rides. The rehearsals. The shows.
The moments in between. Not trying to optimize every second. Not trying to prove anything. Just being here.
Giving yourself grace is a practice. It's something you come back to over and over again. Especially when your instinct is to push harder. To do more. To be more.
So if you're feeling that pressure right now…
Like you're behind. Like you should be doing more.
Like you're not keeping up with your own expectations…
Like you're not keeping up with your own expectations…
Take a breath.
You don't have to do everything at once.
You don't have to be everything at once.
You just have to be where you are.
That's enough
Even when it doesn't feel like it.
I'm learning that just because I can do everything… doesn't mean I'm supposed to.
I hope you have a wonderful weekend and I hope to catch you on the road. You can check out our tour schedule here.
I love you,
Lindsay M.
Photo by Amanda Anderson
5 comments
Great timing on those BLOG post. Just what I needed to read tonight. Wishing you the best tour!
I think we all struggle with something mine is anxiety im always worrying about everything it’s sick but my not going to let it control me but it hard mi. I hope you start feeling better soon 💕 because if you play amazing Saturday night. And that was my son’s first cold show and meet and greet you are so sweet and a amazing human the band made are weekend amazing and that’s what you bring to us…we will be see you again June 17 with another meet and greet see in June much love.
Good stuff today. I didn’t know you were sick this week, Sweetie. Praying you completely get over whatever bug you had and when we are physically not well, things easily become overwhelming. Rest when you can. It’s hard to do on the road. Love you❤️🤗
I was going through that same feeling this week but a new friend of mine, now corroborated with your post, that we are where we’re meant to be at this moment. I didn’t fully get it until I read your blog just now. I have multiple passions and when one passion is taking the driver seat of another passion, it could feel as if I’m neglecting or falling back on that other passion. Yet you answered that correctly, “ You just have to be where you are.”.
Thanks Lindsay for the post.
Ummm YES!! Once again you hit the hammer on the nail!!! I’m re doing my website all over again. It stress me out yesterday and I got overwhelmed. Maya was there to walk me through a new process and today I’m feeling today. You speak the words that heal from within 😍