Motivation is Conscientious

I hope you've all had a great week. There's something I want to discuss today that was inspired by a text exchange I had with a good friend yesterday: This idea that we are failing if we ask for help.

I'm all for today's modern, “I am woman, hear me roar,” culture. I get it. I'm one of them. I've experienced the spectrum of ups and downs as I've been taking action to build my life the way I want it, while navigating the insane time we're currently living in. It can get stressful. It can get even more stressful when we feel stuck. Especially when we feel in our hearts we're at a crossroads, and we know we need to make a decision, but which road do we take? (Hello, sleepless nights.) Life can be so f*cking overwhelming.

My friend has been going through a tough time. A few stressful situations, one after the other, have been taking a toll on her physical and mental health. She has a support system, and her boyfriend has been there and has been helping her as much as he can, however, she literally told me she felt like a failure because she wasn't able to do it on her own. That's a heartbreaking thing to hear as a friend. And I've so been there. I've had many moments in my life where I felt like I was the one who needed to do it all and have it all figured out, so I wasn't a "burden" on someone else. But that was just my ego talking. Pride. Because in reality, there is no way I can do any of it alone. And I've had to ask for help. And thank God I did, because without the massive support of my friends and family, I'd be in a very dark place.

Asking for help is a cornerstone of life's beautiful blessings. Asking for help doesn't indicate failure, it indicates faith. It indicates trust. Change is mostly dictated by motivation. We see something we would like to be different in our lives, and if we begin by making baby steps towards that thing, all of the sudden we wake up and boom, that is our new way of being. And no one can do it alone without a support system. I mean, who even WANTS to do it without a support system? 

Here's another flaw in thinking we have to do it all: When we withhold our vulnerability by not allowing people to be there in every capacity that they want to be, we're robbing our loved ones of their contributions. We're taking away an opportunity for them to live their best lives. 

I love to help my friends. I am all-in when I can lend a hand. When I can be of service, I'm not only helping someone else, I'm fulfilling a deep desire of my own. That service makes me feel alive, makes me feel joy, and makes me feel love. And we all know that more of that energy creates more of that energy in you and in those around you. That's the only way I personally want to live. That's one of the reasons I love to coach. 

Within the give and take and the ebb and flow, ego is a bitch. Ego is impatient. Ego wants everything the way it wants and wants it now. Ego is our worst enemy. Love is in patience and faith and looking for the best possible outcomes of anything we put our minds to, as we go with the flow. 

Motivation is conscientious. Creating is energy we must put forth. Creation is anything from creating art to creating whatever life we want to live. This morning, I watched an IG reel from actor Dan Levy, whom I adore. It really resonated with me, and I'm not going to lie, set a delightful tone for my day. You can watch it here. I hope you're inspired by it as well.

I know there are so many of you out there that really WANT to make a change in your life. Most of the time, the path is simple, but it's not necessarily easy. Most of the time, we make it more difficult because we're in our own heads about things. Or we compare. Or we stand still. But I promise you one thing: No matter what it is you want to do, create, build, whether you stand still or work toward the thing, time will continue to pass. Please love and believe in yourself enough to put your head down and do the work and ask for help when you need it. There are people waiting to help you. 

I hope you have an inspired af weekend.

Until next week, I love you.